At this time of the year, at this time in our lives, at this time in the World, we all want to feel Peace.
Peace is the emotion that without a doubt, if it was felt by all, would be followed by two other emotions, Love and Joy. What brings peace is not always that everything is perfect but that there is an understanding. Understanding is the why of something. It brings the other less happy emotions like anger and frustration into context and gives us a reason to feel peace.
If we look at it just with our families, understanding why something is happening or why someone is having the reaction they are having, is an avenue to peace. If a little child is having a moment of not cooperating, having a tantrum or they are completely out of sorts we often look to see what is the cause. They are tired, they are hungry, they are having separation anxiety. Little ones and their emotions are often easy to figure out bringing us understanding and giving us a little sense of peace.
Understanding the grownups in families is more complicated. The whys of their patterns of behaviors, their inability to communicate well, their fears, and their thoughts about the world are much more complex. You love your family and you want to support them, but you don't understand them and you feel anything but peace when you are around them. You also sometimes see in yourself the same behaviors, anxieties, and fears. You wish you could understand where all of this is coming from.
Woven into emotions and styles of communication are often triggers from past generations that have been past down. Beneath the patterns of behaviors, the inability to communicate and understand you, are often deep-seated triggers from the past. Uncovering your story and the roots of those complicated anxieties and behaviors can bring peace, understanding, tolerance, and forgiveness.
I remember my Great Aunt Nan, my grandmother's sister. When I would visit her and she would make me lunch, she would always put butter on my sandwich and it was a lot of butter. I didn't like butter and no matter how many times I told her I didn't like butter on my sandwich, it was always there when I sat down to eat. She even put butter on my peanut butter and jelly sandwiches!
When she passed away and I began researching my ancestry, I discovered that her parents were born at the time of the Irish Famine. They both immigrated to NYC, married, and had five little girls. Nan was the oldest and when she was ten and her youngest sister was one, her father died. Their mother couldn't care for the girls and they all went to an orphanage. The youngest was there for over twelve years. Nan was putting butter on my sandwiches to save me from hunger because it was most likely all she knew as a young child. When I discovered that, I felt a wave of forgiveness and peace. It made me wish I had asked her why she buttered the sandwiches.
It is a very simple example but demonstrates how past deep-seated trauma and struggles play a part in behaviors of everyday life. And we now know that it can be passed down from generation to generation.
I invite you to have a conversation with me. Tell me about your family, and let me help you understand more about Ancestral Healing and how I discover the stories of your family and your ancestors. Visit my website, learn more, and book a free thirty-minute session. It is a journey you will take to learn your story that will be filled with things you never knew and it is a journey that will bring you peace.
Tell Me Our Story- Genealogy & Ancestral Healing
I look forward to talking with you soon,
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